Credit card fraud/identity theft update: My plastic levels are fully restored. I got my Discover Card on Monday and my check/debit card + other credit card yesterday at my parents' house. Quick and easy. In keeping with looking on the bright side of things, the fraud allowed me to see my credit report from all three credit bureau agencies. That's what happens when you put a fraud alert on your accounts. Discover Card even called me Tuesday to ask if I had received the card because it hadn't been activated yet and then called Wednesday to see if I had made specific charges on the card.
While random blog reading (bored at work; boss was gone), I found what might be the cutest pic ever.
Sometime during my April-December 2004 "anti-dating" stint (hey, I knew I was moving back to Tulsa from Houston in June and was gone literally for ¾ of July on family vacation. So what would be the point of meeting someone then? And ya know, I just didn't want to be with anyone for a bit after that. I dunno.) I was introducted to he's just not that into you by Greg Behrendt and Liz Tucillo. I'm not sure if it was a friend that told me about it, the book review sections of US Weekly or People Magazine, or from reading Jennifer Weiner's (great chick lit author) blog or during an interview with her on Radio Times. I remember putting it on hold at the library in mid-October or so. By then it had been out for a couple of weeks and the media attention he garnered in chick world was high (he was on Oprah...bleh), so I ended up being like #50,000 in queue. I FINALLY got it on Sunday--and devoured it in 2 reading sessions. Yeah, it's a tiny book. It was just so funny! Given the fact that it usually takes me 2 months to get through other books (at least I do read books; many people I know do not), I'd say that means something. That something being that I'm probably "just not that into" the books I've been reading? I've been taking classes? Had a high-stress job? Pick my excuse!
Now, I don't put much stock in self-help books, especially on subjects so controversial (take this, for example). But I'm sure there's at least some semblance of truth buried in much of it. The author was so black and white, though. Male suitor either does or does not like you--no room for grey. That's a huge logical fallacy right there, but I'm willing to overlook that for a bit. For the most part, I had either directly experienced the "excuses" guys use, have a friend that has a dating story filled with mixed signals, or had even umm...used many of these excuses myself.
The chapter that I did not laugh at because it resonated too much with me was "He's Just Not That Into You If He's Not Calling You." I'm not an idiot, I just don't want to believe it when it's taking place. Deep down I know though when it's going on, though. Doh! Not that I've been one to sit by the phone and wait for a phone call. Ok, maybe I did when I was 13 a lot, but I'm no longer a teenager and they DO have my cell phone number. And if you don't have my cell number, there's your clue that I'm not into you. Yeah, I know you read this. You know who you are.
There was one chapter, though, of which I had zero concept of understanding: "He's Just Not That Into You if He Only Wants to See You When He's Drunk."
WHA??? You mean this actually happens so often that there needed to be an entire chapter devoted to the subject? And we women fall into this really lame trap? I know what you're thinking, ET, and "he's" was not quite what they meant in this scenario. Besides, ATM would fit under the "H.J.N.T.I.Y. if He's a Selfish Jerk, a Bully, or a Really Big Freak" chapter if we were keeping count. And we are. Since most of my friends (you're my friend, ET! don't even start it again) got married to their 1st-5thboyfriend and at the average age of 20, no one I know (and have discussed these issues with) really has enough history for me to get any kind of grip on how often this drunk thing happens. I guess I need to get over my perceived anti-alcohol thing and get out more.
Once again, I didn't have any major paradigm shifts while reading this book. The book did, however, make me feel tons more positive about damn near any dating situation. I did have one major problem with this book and two things he left out, but we'll save those for tomorrow and the next day...provided something REALLY odd doesn't happen between now and then.